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Re: Tales From The Narc Side
« Reply #500 on: May 01, 2024, 08:07:50 AM »
"Is anybody listening to me?

Paying attention here?

Show me. I sense failure coming on...."



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« Reply #501 on: May 01, 2024, 08:11:36 AM »


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« Reply #502 on: May 01, 2024, 08:14:49 AM »
:tello: "I'm not giving up. I'm taking a break."
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Re: Tales From The Narc Side
« Reply #503 on: May 01, 2024, 08:18:25 AM »
 

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« Reply #504 on: May 10, 2024, 04:17:10 PM »
The BIG Letter


Narcissistic Domestic Partner / Landlord Retaliatory Eviction / Felony / Torts Case

 
From:
m86thecat@yahoo.com
To:
info@ifhmb.com
Thu, May 9 at 11:06 PM

Inland Fair Housing and Mediation Board
1500 South Haven Ave. Suite 100 | Ontario, CA 91761
Phone: 800-321-0911 | Fax: 909-460-0274
info@ifhmb.com

Hello;

I am Ronald Culley, aka Ron Tello.

I believe I have contacted you before this year and received no satisfaction.
I have recently contacted Adult Protective Services (APS), who has given me your number. I have been going around in circles for several months trying to secure Legal Aid and now I am trying you again.

My ex-girlfriend is the landlord where I live in Big Bear. She is a Narcissist*, actively trying to evict me as a tenant. I am NOT a tenant.

I AM A RESIDENT; A LAWFUL (FORMER) DOMESTIC PARTNER.

I am disabled, unemployed, indigent, have no resources, forsaken and nowhere to go. (APS has set out to deal with SSI for I have been denied it in recent years.) My Bank shut me down from overdrafts (account will be closed 5/18 if I don't pay $198)

I HAVE NO MONEY, I am existing merely on Food Stamps, recyclables and the Good Graces of Others....I made a few bucks from fundraising on various YouTube talk show appearances.

In 2015 I was invited and physically brought here from a state of homelessness as it was the result of a corrupt Court System in Elko County, Nevada **. I declare myself a Political Refugee. Now, the Refuge is being compromised.

She is again abusing the law to have her way, i.e. she has done this a dozen times over the past 8 1/2 years (Pattern of Abuse). This is a Retaliatory Eviction because I refused to play her Narc games and endure her continuing abuses. She will not respect my Boundaries and insults my Humanity and Intelligence. At no time have I committed any legal/obligatory offenses.

She has NO Legal Grounds; she claims she is the Victim, as is standard behavior with all narcissists.This is pure irrational emotionalism.
In the alternative, emotional irrationality. Mental instability. Detachment from reality. Insane.

Since late last year she has been living in her RV in Ventura with another man ("New Supply") All has been well until now; repeat attempts and lies to remove me without empathy or remorse.

In the lexicon of Narcissistic Abuse, this is called "Narcissistic Discard" ***

In January this year she issued to me a harassing 30-day notice and threatened a 90-day. To date, no follow through. This I declare is Wilful Infliction of Emotional Distress, Judicial Abuse and Malice Aforethought.

Also, she issued a "Proposal", whereas, I can accept the 30-day and play that game, or I could accept her offer of $3,000 to pay my taxes for my Nevada (distressed, uninhabitable) Property and move out in 30 days.

Absolutely humanly impossible in this current unaffordable housing-shortage market. Without sustainable income, this is clearly NOT a rational offer. I went with the Eviction Process.
_______________________________________________
MEANWHILE, IF I FAIL TO SECURE $1300 FOR MY TAXES BY MAY 30, 2024, I WILL LOSE EVERYTHING. I NEED HER TO PAY!! SHE OFFERED TO PAY IF I MOVE OUT. SHE CAN PAY AS I STAY IN DURING THE MEDIATION PROCESS. FRAME IT AS A PERSONAL LOAN, CONTINGENT UPON THE SALE OF MY HOUSE AND ITS CONTENTS.

Banks refused me a Home Equity loan due to no credit history.
Family denies me and friends are poor and few. I'm holding out for hope on one man in Montello, Nevada, the location of my House.
It's always 50/50 in my life.
______________________________________________

The 30-day Notice did not have a Proof of Service page, and I found out it was NOT filed with the Court. This is FRAUDULENT! An abuse of the Legal Process. Also, the issuing Law Office is culpable of malfeasance.

I am claiming Breach of Duty of Care, Breach of Trust, Breach of Covenant and Elderly Abuse. She deliberately denied me a regular stipend of money and heating fuel, plus, out of spite, she took away her unused blanket from my bed, claiming I was getting it dirty. (Oh but it stays clean on her bed, 3 feet away from mine. Sure.) 

I continue to live up to my end of our agreement: Chores in lieu of cash rent. I was never obligated to pay cash rent or utilities.

This action by the Landlord/Ex is violence, threatening my health and well being. A Quality of Life Offense. It is a HATE CRIME. I need to defend myself from this monstrous hostility and deprivation.

She has maliciously denied me all means of support and verbally stated she wants to see me homeless. I have it on audio tape and she knows it. She actually thanked me for recording her, thinking it would play-out in her favor. In reality, it's probative evidence against her.

As a Narcissist, she wants me to suffer. Mission accomplished.

I seek Mediation and Recompense; a Civil Suit settled out of Court.

All I need is for someone in Authority to encourage her to pay up or suffer the consequences of Felony Adult Abuse and Torts 1 thru 100 Lawsuit.

Please, will you help me?

Thank you.

-Ron Tello Culley
XXXX San Bernardino Ave.
PO Box 5602
Sugarloaf, CA 92386


* https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Narcissism

** http://www.ozroundtable.com/index.php?topic=7992.msg669609#msg669609

*** https://www.quora.com/What-is-a-narcissists-discard

https://jointheroyalwe.com/about-1/f/the-final-discard-stage-of-narcissistic-abuse#:~:text=Ultimately%2C%20the%20final%20discard%20stage,no%20choice%20but%20to%20leave.

https://www.medicinenet.com/why_does_a_covert_narcissist_discard_you/article.htm



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Re: Tales From The Narc Side
« Reply #505 on: May 14, 2024, 04:15:59 AM »
The "Proposal"

From: Sherry Kopack
To: m86thecat@yahoo.com
Sent: Monday, January 15, 2024 at 10:15:10 PM PST
Subject: Options/eviction

Attention, Ronald Culley.
When I saw you on the 6th of January, 2024, you had received an eviction notice, which will be carried out if you don't accept my offer by the 30th of January, 2024.

I had offered to pay your moving expenses, and to also pay your property taxes. I'm letting you know that the total cost of the moving expenses and the cost of your property taxes will NOT exceed $3,000.00...I will pay you what ever is left  after the move is completed, which will be done  by February 6th, 2024. We can both sign an agreement to this offer.

Keep in mind, that by accepting this offer, your move must be completed by February 6th, 2024. This offer will be void on midnight, January 30th, 2024, and the money that would have gone to help you will go to an unlawful detainer, instead.

To be  delivered to
XXXX San Bernardino Ave.
Sugarloaf, Ca. -92386-

Sherry Kopack
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Re: Tales From The Narc Side
« Reply #506 on: May 16, 2024, 04:28:06 AM »
From:
m86thecat@yahoo.com
To:
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Wed, May 15 at 11:24 AM

Hello;

Your office called me yesterday and I was not able to speak.
The lady said she would call back on Thursday.

I must add to my case notes the following:

My narcissistic landlord was here removing her possessions from the room which I occupy.

I laid low, no contact for the duration of her (and new guy) visit.

When no one was in the area, she entered my room and verbally assaulted me. Yelling. Accusing and abusing me, claiming I am no good, have not done my work here, etc. (Details in my notes)

The most chilling thing of all is: I yelled back "You are violating my Tenant Rights!"

Her exact response "YOU DON'T HAVE RIGHTS".

Also, she has removed my possessions from the room, a clear violation of everything.

The tension and level of violence has now escalated.
She has laid hands on me before.
Know this: Narcissists are volatile, unstable characters.
I predicted, and posted on social media that a confrontation would ensue. I was correct.

I now claim that she is willing and capable of taking her unfounded angst towards me to new levels of criminality.

Please enter this info into my Case File, and I look forward to hearing from your office tomorrow.

Thank you.

-Ron Tello Culley
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Re: Tales From The Narc Side
« Reply #507 on: May 16, 2024, 05:55:23 AM »
What happens when you show
no emotions towards a narcissist?

They get confused.

They keep trying to make you upset.

They do something sneaky without you knowing, like lying, cheating, or stealing.

They might try to start a fight over something small or blame you for things to get a reaction.

They talk to other people who support them and say bad things about you.

Then, they start treating you badly, making you feel unimportant and confused.

They spend more time on social media, looking for attention.

When they find someone new who doesn't know them well but likes them, they keep trying to impress them.

Meanwhile, they treat you worse, showing less care and being mean.

You might decide to leave, or they might decide to end things with you.

The story is over until the narcissist gets bored. Then, they might try to come back (hoovering).

You can choose to stop talking to them completely, or the narcissist might start the same cycle again. This can happen over and over until you decide to cut off contact for real.
You might feel sad about the time you wasted and that someone tricked you. It's good to talk to someone for advice on why this happened and how to avoid it in the future.

Finally, because you are smart, you move on. Later, you might look back and laugh, realizing you can't believe you fell for someone like them.

Don't forget this, no matter how long it takes to feel better, find support, and you will get through it!


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« Reply #508 on: May 16, 2024, 05:08:30 PM »
What do narcissists feel inside?

They feel :

Powerful in a relationship, they need to be seen as the dominant force. If you challenge them in any way, you’ve irreversibly harmed their pride and are likely on the road to being discarded.

More Important than you . They can’t be with someone who makes them feel inferior or take the spotlight away.

Noticed from their perspective, it always feels like the world isn’t recognizing their amazing talent . They think they're God’s gift to mankind.

Need to be worshiped . They need that partner to express their love to the fullest whenever they’re around, and especially when anyone else is around. Narcissists want others to see that their partner worships the ground they walk on.

They feel like you’re in control, at every moment. It’s that ego fragility that makes narcissists so dangerous to be around; they can snap at any moment when they feel threatened.

A narcissist wants you to fill in all the little cracks in their ego.

They want you to recognize all of their good qualities and ignore the unsavory ones.

They want you to make them look better whenever you’re together.

They want you to get out of the way when they are BORED with you and they go looking for a NEW SOURCE OF SUPPLY !


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« Reply #509 on: May 16, 2024, 06:03:57 PM »
Why does a narcissist always try to defend his lies?

BECAUSE HIS LIES IS ALL HE'S GOT.

The narcissist has literally nothing else to offer you.

Lies.

Upon those lies you build hope.

And there you have your narcissistic relationship.

Lies and futile hope.

There's nothing else in the stars for you.

Not as long as you entertain this narcissist.

The narcissist always defends his lies so you can always keep on hoping.

Hoping that you're wrong.

Hoping that he will understand.

Hoping that he will change.

Until one day you'll realize that you’ve been giving your all, for absolutely nothing in return.

Nothing but lies.

Some people wasted 6 months doing that.

Some wasted 45 years.

It all depends on your level of delusion.

Good luck.


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Re: Tales From The Narc Side
« Reply #510 on: May 16, 2024, 06:16:46 PM »
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« Reply #511 on: May 16, 2024, 06:37:03 PM »
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« Reply #512 on: May 17, 2024, 02:57:03 AM »
What does a narcissist
do when you told them you
know they are lying to you?

Deny it.

Lie about the lie.

Gaslight you to make you think you're going insane.

Blame shift.

Belittle you.

Demean you.

Rage.

Change the subject.

Leave the room and come back like it never happened.

Any tactic possible to avoid taking full accountability.

A true narcissist will never accept accountability for their actions.


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« Reply #513 on: May 17, 2024, 03:09:34 AM »
Here's how narcissists lie
and get away when
they are caught

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« Reply #515 on: May 17, 2024, 05:18:19 PM »
What does a narcissist do when they
know that their partner has
figured them out?

Omgeeee…. This is not a gud thing for them. It makes them angry and powerless. They realise they are no longer in control and because of this they will try to end the relationship.. not because they want to but because the realise u are not feeding their ego anymore.

My husband told me he doesn't want a wife who question anything he does. I should say ok to whatever and there will always be peace 😆.

He now realizes how strong willed I am and doesn't depend on him for anything. He doesn't like that either. He wants me to wrk one job even though he ain't giving me sh!t and I stood up to him and let him know that this is not his decision to make until he can at least try to assist in supporting me financially. Until then stfu.

Right now he wants me out. But I ain't going nowhere until am ready. Screw him.

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« Reply #516 on: Today at 04:28:18 AM »
Why does everyone say you can't win against a narcissist?

You can't win against a narcissist, because they don't care, and you do –

It's a rigged playing field.

People who try to “win” against the narcissist, usually do so by trying to attain some form of moral high-ground, demonstrating to the narcissist all that is wrong with them, how bad they have been, etc.

Might as well be reading the narcissist a bedtime story, because while you are trying to show them the wrong of their ways, they are just awe-struck by how boring you have become now wishing you leave them for good and don't return.

You only “win” against the narcissist, by reaching that point of equally not-caring, and most people don't have it in them to reach that point. (After all, narcissists are humans too with at least some potential for good, or at least that is what many insist on believing…)

The point where you realize the narcissist's abuse against you, in a way, was your own allowing. Now your boundaries are stronger, and you no longer entertain these human pests, you have seen the light.

No hard feelings, it all served a purpose – you now have a new world, which they shall never partake in!

And, of course, you must withdraw yourself and engage in these things more interesting than them, where you no longer think, obsess, ruminate over them.

Because even if you do “move on” and do other things, if they continue to live in your mind rent-free, you feel their energy, it just shows they are the best, most interesting thing, you still have in your life. And you don't even have them!!

So where does that leave you?

Right where the narcissist wants you.


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