Tales From The Narc Side

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A NEW Tello Blog.

Exclusively dealing with Narcissism, from a personal point of view.

Trust me, I'm a Professional.

Not just a "Survivor", but currently a "Steady Customer".

Nothing is easy, so when there's a Narc in your life...

...everything is a Sh!t Show.

Please stand by, this Blog is evolving, one impulse at a time.

Buckle up. Here It Goes.

Shut up smee.

                                                               

Celebrity Smiley impersonated.

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"Welcome. Check it out: this is more about Therapy for us than them."

SNIPE

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If you are interested in sending correspondence, please do it. I'll post the nasty stuff first.


m86thecat@yahoo.com

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And then there's this:

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Production Note:

What you can expect: Random Posts.

What you can get: Random Posts.

You got a better idea?
This is not easy.

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Narcissistic personality disorder

From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is a personality disorder characterized by a life-long pattern of exaggerated feelings of self-importance, an excessive need for admiration, and a diminished ability to empathize with other people's feelings. Narcissistic personality disorder is one of the sub-types of the broader category known as personality disorders.[1][2] It is often comorbid with other mental disorders and associated with significant functional impairment and psychosocial disability.[1] It's some really flocked up sh!t, man.

SEE MORE:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Narcissistic_personality_disorder

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10 Ways To Tell A "Normal" Relationship
Vs.
One With A Narcissist

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hLmZ2ajcOvc

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Do narcissist know they are using you?

Yes, they do. They know exactly what they're doing and how much it will hurt you. Even knowing this, they continue to use you. They understand that the relationship won't last.

You may not have known or wanted to believe it, but it's true.

It was never about love; it was about control.

Narcissists enjoy manipulating your feelings to get what they want. They lack empathy and truly don't care about others.

They treat their target like an object, such as a doll or toy. They play with it for a while, but when it's no longer perfect in their eyes, they start mistreating it. Eventually, they get bored because abusing you isn't fun anymore, so they leave.

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Oftentimes, they do not.

For they are just following their natural state, impulses, instincts.

Narcissists use you, to elevate them to new heights.

That's right, they want to –

Run faster,

Jump higher,

Perform new tricks,

Ultimately, achieve a new level of greatness.

You are nothing but a tool.

You may be good–looking, you may be smart, you may be impressive.

Nevertheless, you are nothing but their tool.

https://www.quora.com/Do-narcissist-know-they-are-using-you

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What Happens When You No Longer Play Into A Narcissist's Games

When you've had repeated exposures to a narcissist, weariness settles in as you think: "I can do better than this."  Dr. Les Carter details how necessary it is to reclaim your good mannerisms so the narcissist is no longer setting your pace.  He describes 5 distinct adjustments you can make to show that you are no longer willing to be manipulated and treated poorly.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iBiJdwBNB6o

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Tales from the Narc side - Presented by Ron Tello with a DRUM show!!

Watcher of Crazy
1.09K subscribers

814 views  Streamed live on Jan 18, 2024
Please join me and panel guest Ron Tello as we discuss his Tales from the Narc side. Many of you know him as Ron Tello the "Mayor" of Montello, the creative, eccentric, funny and long haired dude that used to live in Montello, NV and known to build and beat a mean drum. After exercising his 2nd Ammendment right to protect himself, he was held in Elko Co. jail for 357 days. Once released he was unable to return back to his home and he now considers himself a Political Refugee and resides in California. We will also celebrate his 66th birthday with him. If you would like to send him a few dollars to say Happy Birthday, his paypal info is below.
Paypal email for Ron: m86thecat@yahoo.com

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zhHHkTU0FXo&t=6160s

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What makes a narcissist panic?

Being around a narcissist can make you lose your confidence and courage, and you may start to feel nervous or even scared.

This is because you never know what the narcissist will do next. You don’t know what might happen in 5 minutes. His standards and behaviour drop dramatically quickly, and his mask begins to slip away for longer.

A narcissist will do something reprehensible and forbidden to gain attention and gain an advantage over you.

However, there is a way to turn the situation around. There is a way to gain an advantage. A narcissist may seem scary, terrifying, and may intimidate you, but in reality, he is a very insecure, fragile, and oversensitive creature.

A narcissist is built on a sense of shame. He does everything to avoid responsibility, and he does everything to avoid feeling shame and not to think about what he has done. Nothing scares a narcissist more than shame and the possibility of being exposed.

If you want the narcissist to panic, start talking about what he is doing, start pointing out his faults and mistakes, start mentioning that his story makes no sense and that there are many inaccuracies in it. Tell him that he gets lost even in his own lies. Tell him you don’t believe a word he says, tell him he’s a pathological liar, and back it up with undeniable evidence.

The narcissist may not agree with this, but this will cause him to panic. This is because the narcissist knows that what he is saying is stupid and untrue, so when you talk about it, you start to expose him, and you show him that you know who he really is.

This makes a narcissist 

Nothing scares him more than not being protected from something harmful and dangerous to him. Nothing scares him more than having his embarrassing and harmful behaviour exposed than having his secret revealed. A narcissist must have control over other people’s perceptions, must have control over how they perceive him, and must have control over what they think of him.

The narcissist achieves this through manipulation, but if he feels that he is unable to manipulate someone’s perception, someone’s point of view, then the narcissist will panic.

A narcissist will panic around anyone who is confident in themselves and their worth. A narcissist will panic around anyone who respects and accepts themselves. A narcissist will panic around anyone who has a strong, unwavering opinion of themselves and will panic around anyone who is happy and satisfied with their life. A narcissist will panic around people who have power and who are in control. He can’t be around authentic people. He can’t be around people who have character and strong boundaries. This is because then the narcissist can not manipulate or control that person.

Then the narcissist can’t control how you see yourself, he can’t control how you see others, he can’t control how you see him, and all of this creates anxiety and instability for him because then he has no power and no control, he is at a disadvantage and unfavorable position.

A narcissist must feel that he has power and control, because only then can he feel stable, and only then can he feel safe. The narcissist must keep you in a state of threat, fear and shame, and the threat of loss. But if you are sure of your self-worth, a narcissist can not bring you to such a state that he will not be successful.

The narcissist has to make you lose your own identity and make you give up who you are. He has to do this first so that you will be afraid of losing him.

As long as you stick to your identity, you won’t be afraid of losing the narcissist. This, in turn, will trigger his problems and fears of abandonment and rejection, which will cause the narcissist to panic.

So, to make a narcissist panic, you must first stay calm and avoid emotional reactions such as surprise, nervousness, or worry. A narcissist is only looking for a reaction to what he says or does, so he will try to provoke you, threaten you, and intimidate you. A narcissist will use various types of threats, both direct and indirect, but if he cannot upset, worry or irritate you, if he cannot lead to extreme emotions or arguments, this will give you an advantage over him and cause the narcissist to panic. As long as you respond to what the narcissist does, then he will feel comfortable, then he will feel powerful, and then he will feel in control. As long as you are emotionally involved, the narcissist will have control over you. To create a narcissistic panic, you can start to control him. You can stop seeing him as an authority. You can tell him about his mistakes and shortcomings, and you can use the grey rock method. To make a narcissist panic, you need to avoid contact, then he will seek contact, but if he doesn’t get a response from you, he will feel insignificant, unimportant, and worthless, and this tells him that he doesn’t deserve your attention and time, and that causes that he panics.

For a narcissist to panic, he must know that he cannot reach you and cannot influence you, he cannot control you and cannot manipulate you, he must know that he cannot get any reaction from you, then the narcissist cannot gain fuel this is because then you are the one rejecting the narcissist, not the narcissist rejecting you.

https://www.quora.com/What-makes-a-narcissist-panic?topAns=1477743749176045

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Dear Narc:
I'm not saying you're STUPID.
I'm saying your Father was RIGHT.

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Are narcissists bad people?

Yes, narcissists are bad and evil. Narcissism is a personality disorder where someone thinks they are very important and cares too much about themselves. People with this problem are hard to deal with because they don't understand others' feelings, struggle to build good relationships, act bossy, have trouble socializing, feel better than everyone else, and use others for their benefit.

Narcissists want attention and approval from others to feel secure and special. They often do tricky things like lying or bragging to make themselves seem better or more successful than they really are. If things don't go the way they want, they get very mad and might even be mean, especially if someone disobeys them. This makes it tough for people close to the narcissist, as any small disagreement can lead to a big angry reaction.

In terms of having healthy relationships, it's not easy because good relationships need both sides to give and take. But if one person insists on being in control all the time, it makes things even harder, leading to frustration and hurt feelings. This is especially true if the person had narcissistic tendencies before entering the relationship.

Some say that getting treatment might help those with this disorder understand themselves better and learn how to interact with others while staying true to themselves. But, in the end, only the person with narcissism can make real changes. At the end of the day, yes, we can definitely say that narcissists are not good people.

https://www.quora.com/Are-narcissists-bad-people?topAns=1477743745537507

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What will a narcissist never do?

1. They don’t let anyone prove them wrong. If you try to show them that they are mistaken, they will either dismiss your attempt or get angry and defensive.

2. They will never apologize. They just don’t care, and if you ask them to apologize, they’ll probably just say something like: “it’s not my fault, you’re too sensitive”. So if you’re waiting for them to apologize, you’re waiting forever.

3. They will never forgive and forget. Because they are incapable of forgiving or forgetting someone who was wrong them, even if that person made an apology. They don’t just hold a grudge and let it fester, they actively try to hurt you in the same way that breaks them.

4. They will not appreciate you. They will never thank you for being there or helping them out when needed, they will never even acknowledge that your presence in their life is something to be thankful for. They will just expect you to be there for them because they feel entitled to it.

5. They will never put you before them. They love to put themselves first and they will always put their needs before yours and never think twice about it.

6. They will not care about what you feel. It’s for them hard to deal with because they cannot care about anyone but themselves. They don’t want to hear about your problems and don’t want to listen to your complaints. They might pretend to care sometimes but it’s all for the show.

7. They will never be responsible for their actions. They will never take responsibility for any mistakes they make, they always make you feel crazy and unstable all a part of their game plan. They want to keep you on your toes so that you’ll never get a chance to figure out what’s really going on with them.

8. They will never love you. When you are in a relationship with a narcissist, it’s important to remember that you’ll never be the center of their Universe. They don’t act out of love; they act out of neediness and self-interest.

https://www.quora.com/What-will-a-narcissist-never-do?topAns=398612814

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What causes narcissists to feel humiliation?

Narcissists aren't able to handle the truth. Narcissists, at any cost, don't want to know they have flaws. The truth triggers the shame in narcissists. When you bombard narcissists with the truth, they will run away. You will see them angry.

Narcissists can't handle constructive criticism; it's like how dare you point at their flaws. Narcissists will blame you for everything by projecting their flaws onto you. Constructive criticism makes them feel insulted and humiliated.

Narcissists are very afraid of being exposed. Being exposed makes them feel shamed; they can't handle when people view them negatively. Being exposed destroys narcissists false reality.

Narcissists live in a world of fantasy where they believe they are perfect individuals.

https://npdabusehealing.quora.com/What-causes-narcissists-to-feel-humiliation?topAns=1477743746473451

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The Sign That A Narcissist Is Beyond Redemption

Healthy individuals are in an ongoing effort to grow and make personal improvements where necessary.  Dr. Les Carter draws upon solid research, identifying the primary indicator that illustrates if a person is not only unhealthy, but destined to create perpetual strain in relationships.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OXaq0_XqhWk&t=2s

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What To Do With Stored Up Anger Toward A Narcissist

Even as you pull away from a narcissist, the emotional damage can linger.  Dr. Les Carter describes how you can have stored up anger for an extended time, but as you understand why it is there and how to manage it, you can keep it from consuming you.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ge_E-UtUuU0

"Your anger is the part of you that knows that your abuse and mistreatment are unacceptable. Your anger knows that you deserve to be treated well and with kindness. Your anger is a part of you that loves you." - Lindsay Gallant

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This Causes the Most Pain in a Narcissist More Than Anything Else

Hey everyone, welcome back to our platform! Today, let's delve into the intricate world of narcissists and their intricate reactions to unmet expectations, particularly within the realm of personal relationships.

Narcissists, with their self-absorbed nature, constantly crave attention and adulation. Yet, beneath this facade lies a vulnerability to criticism and setbacks, especially when their grandiose expectations fall short.

In relationships, narcissists have clear objectives. They seldom invest in genuine, intimate connections unless they foresee an opportunity for dominance. Dominance serves as their tool for controlling and manipulating relationships, with the ultimate aim of rendering their partner so dependent that opposing them seems inconceivable.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_h9939XtY1c

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  "Narcs will and DO abuse the Courts to do their dirty work when they know they have failed to get the Narc Supply that they incessantly crave."

From: Sherry K
To: Ron Tello

Mon, Jan 15 at 10:15 PM

Attention, Ronald Culley.
When I saw you on the 6th of January, 2024, you had received an eviction notice, which will be carried out if you don't accept my offer by the 30th of January, 2024.
I had offered to pay your moving expenses, and to also pay your property taxes. I'm letting you know that the total cost of the moving expenses and the cost of your property taxes will NOT exceed $3,000.00...I will pay you what ever is left  after the move is completed, which will be done  by February 6th, 2024. We can both sign an agreement to this offer.
Keep in mind, that by accepting this offer, your move must be completed by February 6th, 2024. This offer will be void on midnight, January 30th, 2024, and the money that would have gone to help you will go to an unlawful detainer, instead. To be  delivered to XXXX San Bernardino Ave.
Sugarloaf, Ca. -92386-

How the Narcissist Reacts When You STOP Playing Their Mind Games?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ibYEobPG6_Q

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"On January 6, 2024 I received a 30-Day Notice. It was Defective on its face. No Proof of Service page attached. It was not filed with The Court. I have not yet received an Unlawful Detainer. NO FOLLOW-THRU. Totally incompetent, this one.

I got over a dozen 30-Day Notices over the past 8 years. It shows a Pattern of Abuse, and there is NO legit legal defense for her.

Narcissistic Injury is not a Legal Complaint.

And what about the Lawyer who provided it? Shady, and subject to scrutiny too!"

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Here's where I Flip The Script.

This is Why the CHOSEN ONE Suffers

The concept of the "Chosen One" is deeply rooted in spiritual, mythical, and religious narratives across various cultures and traditions. Often portrayed as a figure destined for great purpose, the Chosen One's journey is not just a path of triumph and glory but also of profound suffering and challenge.

Being chosen has various meanings for different people. However, when we talk about being chosen by God, It means that God has personally selected you to fulfill a unique role that involves helping others in your time. This selection is not random; it's like being handpicked for an important task.

Being chosen is indeed a great honor. It's a blessing that comes with its own set of challenges. Those who are chosen often face difficulties because they possess special spiritual gifts. These individuals are highly aware and alert, with a deep consciousness that sets them apart.

They have the ability to understand and feel what others are going through in a way that most people can't. Their minds work in ways that are different from the majority, which makes them exceptional.
Learn more from the Video.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fHOBlM2X4jE

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8 Signs You Are a Chosen One | All Chosen One’s Must Watch This

Every chosen one comes into this world with a mission. They bring light and hope to humanity, and once their tasks are completed, they return. It is precisely because they carry such extraordinary missions that their lives are often filled with hardships, trials, and emotional turmoil, but they ultimately achieve greatness.

When the higher power chooses you, it doesn't hand you a manual. It gives you clues, signs, and whispers. Don't dismiss signs as mere coincidences. Acknowledge them. Delve into their depths and you might discover their arrows pointing you toward your destiny.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9jVWYmRc4Ik

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Don't Mess With the
Chosen Ones

From the courageously misunderstood to the bearers of knowledge, the chosen ones have remarkable depth. This video reveals the why of their divine protection, the intellect they carry, their influence on societal dynamics, their profound intuitive sense, and the ancient secrets they hold.

- Why are they referred to as "the chosen ones"?
- The depth of their spiritual power
- Their intellectual giftedness
- How they influence our emotions and transformation
- Society's misunderstanding consequence
- The power of their intuitive sense
- Their ability to transmute negativity into positivity
- Their possessive of hidden knowledge

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L7jxtnej-u4

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10 Reasons Why Sigma Males Are Way Different
Than 95% of Men

Sigma males have long been considered outsiders in society. They are constantly misunderstood, and many people don't know how to classify them. While alpha males are recognized for their dominance and assertiveness, sigma males tend to be more introverted and independent.
Alpha males may be the most familiar in the dominance hierarchy, but Sigma males are a rare breed that stands out for their unique qualities, while others may view them as mysterious and hard to understand. Here are  reasons why Sigma men are way different than 95% of men, and *Smee.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mOsPzLE999o

* http://www.ozroundtable.com/index.php?topic=8293.0

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How a Covert Narcissist Seeks Revenge

Narcissists are vengeful and revengeful and vindictive. And they are cold hearted and heartless and cruel and unforgiving. This is what they are. And this is who they are. And that’s why they are so dangerous. They love to argue. And they love to fight. And they love picking fights. This is what they love. So how can they possibly love anyone else but themselves? So never, ever trust them with your heart or with your mind for that matter. Or you will live to regret it for the rest of your life.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z87Bo61YFm4

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The Narcissist's Most Cruel Desire...
Don't Let This To Happen To You

It's hard to believe that someone who seems normal can be so hateful and evil but this is spot on. These people are so fake but they mirror you so you're blind to what's happening until you're hooked, then they start to break and devalue and you end up being so confused. They put on such a convincing act, other people believe them. They're the victim, but the reality is they are cold blooded sick individuals.

They are very happy to destroy as many lives as they can.... Quite proud actually.

Narcissists don't seem to understand the concept of working together for mutual growth and success because they view everyone as a threat.

Narcs are quite strategic before carrying out their plans to trap their victims and know exactly when to strike. They spy and watch every move of their target, knowing their schedule from when they leave and return to their homes.

Finding out their true colors…and refusing to have anything more to do with them…is the best feeling in the whole world. Bye bye, Bozo!! And let them worry forever…that their next source of supply finds out the truth about them…much faster than you did.

These monsters have to be put in PRISON!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uYmhgioGJX4

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8 Lame Tactics Narcissistic Women Use To Manipulate Sigma Males

Gentlemen, beware – not every danger in the realms of love and relationships announces itself loudly. In the shadows, a subtle challenge is emerging, catching numerous men off guard. Many find themselves ensnared by the manipulative tactics of self-centered women, entrapped in a web of control and emotional turmoil, often without their immediate realization. These individuals grapple with breaking free from the tight grip of manipulation, a force that's silent yet overwhelmingly destructive.

It's crucial to recognize that no man is immune to such manipulations, regardless of his independence or mental fortitude. Even the most self-sufficient and strong-willed among us can fall prey to these cunning strategies if we're not vigilant about the signs.

I'll unveil eight sophisticated techniques that self-centered women employ to ensnare independent men, directly from the playbook of manipulation itself. Whether you see yourself as a leader, a follower, or staunchly independent, these indicators are essential knowledge for every man. Being aware of them is your first step towards sidestepping a life mired in unnecessary drama, disappointments, and chaos. Let's explore these insights together.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LSRi6L7vDnU

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Hidden Gifts Every Sigma Male Is Born With

For  a long time, people believed that the best type of men were those strong, dominant alpha males who were seen as the ultimate winners. But recently, a new kind of man, known as Sigma males, has come forward and challenged this idea. Sigma males have become the new role models, surpassing alphas in many ways. They've become the ones others look up to. No longer do boys dream of growing up to be alphas; instead, they aim to be Sigma males. These Sigma men have set a high standard for others and have earned a wise and respected status among those who admire them. But what makes Sigma males so special? Let's explore the unique hidden gifts that all Sigma males possess.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QqfZUdoNEOE

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If Narcissists Are So Special,
Why Do They Run People Off?

It takes a special person to repel almost every one they know.
Narcissists are empty to their core so even when they are surrounded by their flying monkeys they are and will always be alone in their own hell.

Narcissists are legends in their own minds.

They run off everyone that isn't an enabler. If you're not enabling their bad behaviors, they don't want you around.

They are NOT interested in your reasoning or arguments.
They ARE interested in how much you are willing (or prone) to let them dominate and exploit you, because they believe they are much smarter than you are.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=se4dqZGTgRU

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How The Narcissist Multiplies

A huge, overwhelming chunk of abuse is at the hands of family members. Family members can be narcs too, and this is difficult for many to accept.

We are conditioned to believe that family loves you no matter what they do, and non-relatives are the enemy and narcs.  Learned behaviors start in the home for children. The acting mask is worn not only outside but inside for narc victims.

Right, the family unit for some is not in their best interest, and victims are confused about whether or not to walk away from the madness. However, victims hardly have no one to turn to in seeking validation in cutting off toxic families. We are aware that the victim's families are against it, but it's not surprising that most outsiders are as well.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IH1ISzG4Ydw

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The Darkness At The Core
Of Narcissism

It's amazing that people that you thought were so smart and mentally together were actually quite simple minded and mentally disfigured, horrid, evil, malicious, boring people. Run for the hills & save your soul & mind

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vrr0YZeZ8AM

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Why does it seem that narcissists
are immune when it comes to karma?

First of all the nature of the narcissistic personality does not allow the narcissist to ever be satisfied with their lives.

Why do you think they dumped you?

You were probably the perfect partner and bent over backwards to please them, but they still criticized and found fault in you. The better you treated them, or the more you tried, the more you were devalued and manipulated.

Narcissists are never happy. They always are in search of more or comparing themselves to others and then deeming their lives better. Narcissists often feel the “grass is always greener” and love to upgrade the things and people in their lives without feeling bad.

Sometimes the narcissist who lacks empathy may feel a twinge of guilt about the horrible or super petty things they have done to others, and this will lead them to be even more abusive to others to mask their guilt and keep the uncomfortable feelings at bay by projecting the bad feelings they feel for themselves onto others.

So feel free to ignore all the happy, and smiling pictures you see on social media, trust me it’s a mask. If you could have a glimpse into what is really going on, you would see that the narcissist is sad, lonely and miserable just like they want you to feel when they dump you as if you were yesterday’s trash.

One karmic penalty you have seemed to forgotten is, THE NARC DUMPED YOU! You were waiting on them hand and foot or you rooted for them when times were hard for them. You were the best you could be to them and even though they treated you badly, you didn’t leave.

THE NARC DUMPED YOU!

Only a narcissist would play their hand so badly because no one in their position would dump someone so devoted to them. They will never get another you, and this means they are already losing. You are the best thing to happen to them and they had the nerve to get rid of you. They will have to now go through life without out your greatness.

https://narcismdisorde.quora.com/Why-does-it-seem-that-narcissists-are-immune-when-it-comes-to-karma

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"Elko County Nevada is a Narcissist."

Being a Criminal in Elko County pays

Being a burglar in Elko county is a high paying job with little or no personal risk.
Ya, there might be a risk of having a landowner/homeowner shoot you, but being caught by law enforcement does not appear to be a risk at all.

Recently some of my family members had their shop broken into and during the burglary a vehicle was set on fire and a pistol was stolen along with a side by side, a 4-wheeler, and countless tools.

They called the Sheriff's department and requested an officer to come out and take a statement, begin an investigation, and follow up with attempting to catch the criminals. We were all assuming that meant getting fingerprints, doing an arson investigation, investigate possible suspects, and protect the victim. They collected a statement, nothing else.

The suspects are known to the officers/detectives, yet they have done nothing to interview, question or obtain search warrants for their residence. The way these type of cases work from the Sheriff's office point of view is "We will have to wait until we catch them redhanded". That is a scary proposition. What if next time they accomplish their goal and burn the entire house down with victims inside?

Crime is on the rise, drug activity is on the rise, victims are on the rise in large numbers across Elko County, and from where I sit, not much is being done to get these criminals off the street. All the while the victim sits alone and scarred waiting for something to happen. They have now armed themselves to protect their pursuit of life, liberty and happiness while the criminal walks free without fear of being held accountable.

I get up every day to go to work to earn a paycheck, medical benefits for me and my kids, and pay taxes for a sense of security and community. Maybe it's time to quit my job, get on government subsistence, get free health care and take what I want when I want it. Then maybe I will have the freedom that the criminals in this county get handed to them.

-Scott Stewart
[Published in the Opinion section of the Elko Daily Free Press 8/30/14]

http://www.ozroundtable.com/index.php?topic=8284.msg719673#msg719673

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What To Say to a Narcissist to Shut Them Down Permanently

@brutalhonesty3737
2 years ago
I’ll never walk on eggshells for anyone ever again.
I’m done apologizing for who I am.
I’m done living in fear.
I’m done approval seeking.
I’m done defending myself to a deeply dysfunctional person.
I’m done giving myself to people who aren’t worth my time.
Do what I want to do.  Say what I want to say.  Don’t fear anyone’s reaction.
I don’t care what they think or what their opinion is.  I can’t please the unpleasable. 
I don’t owe anyone an explanation about anything.
I’m calling the shots.
Don’t worry about losing them; remember that I am someone who can be lost too.
Never appease to the extent of compromising my own boundaries.
I will not lay down my intellect and conform to them.
Refuse to be controlled by the controller.
I don’t need their approval, affirmation, blessing, acceptance, support, endorsement, cooperation.
Their words & opinions are irrelevant.  They have no authority to assign value to me.
Stop trying.  (To be kind enough, good enough, understanding enough, communicative enough, loving enough, caring enough, etc.)  It’ll never be enough.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kn7H_P1VfWY

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What are the top 10 things a narcissist never does in their life?

LOYAL.. They play the part until they get the first chance to stab you in the back.

HONEST… The only thing they're honest about is when they tell you how wonderful they think they are.

FAITHFUL.. Truth be told I don't think this is a word that's even in their vocabulary..

GENUINE… Well this one can be debatable because at the end of the day they genuinely will make your life miserable.

EMPATHIZE Your feelings don't matter. Nobody's feelings matter. The only person that matters is the narcissist. Should I empathize with nobody or anything or anyone?

TRUSTING They cannot be trusted and they are definitely not trusting. They're so busy accusing you of cheating on them and talking to other people because that's what they're doing.

COMMITTED I guess this one's another one that can be debated. Cause the only thing they can commit to is making your life miserable.

TAKE OWNERSHIP WHEN CALLED OUT

AND LAST BUT NOT LEAST….Look in the mirror and see the monster that's looking back….

https://www.quora.com/What-are-the-top-10-things-a-narcissist-never-does-in-their-life?topAns=1477743657885299

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Who does a narcissist hate?

There is one person a narcissist hates the most in this entire universe – it is their own self. They are confident, and that much suggests they love who they are, but the reality is far, far, far from it. They hate their insecurities, their shame; they hate their weaknesses, and that becomes evident by the fact that they take it out on you. They project it on you; they sacrifice their true self on the altar of their false self to survive, essentially making them nothing but a bunch of masks and facades they put on depending on the situation they are dealing with. They cannot stand their own presence; they cannot survive their own company for more than a minute – it suffocates them.

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You.

Because you have a depth of character, are admired, have a soul, a good heart and loved authentically.

What they hate the most is your spirit.

That’s what they want to crush.

They love bomb you thinking your greatness will either rub off or is an act or a costume they can steal.

Narcs know NO discipline and want no responsibility to be responsible for your happiness, health, salvation or love. Love bombing is their way of trying to play you so they can extract from you your interpersonal identity.

They have none. It never works bc they don’t have the discipline nor the ability to be socially, psychologically or physiologically civilized this late on the game. That why they go from circumstance to circumstance, never learning, never evolving and still in the circumstance they’re in with new supply, they are still utterly, alone.

They need a host body to navigate through life. A host body with a beautiful spirit. Watch Omen 2 and watch how Damien talks to his “brother” Mark in the woods in the snow before he dies. That’s a narc. They say the devil comes to political figures most bc of their position of power. Narcs are the same. Watch Omen II. One of the greatest movies in cinematic history on evil, demonic powers and narcissism. Their genetic makeup is different.

Narcs want to destroy good. Then destroy YOU.

They want your soul to crush your spirit. You heard of selling your soul to the devil? That’s the love bombing stage you accept.

Watch Omen II.

And get out.

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How do you make a narcissist
scared of you?

They become afraid of you when you are totally detached from the sick cycle of bending over backwards to keep them happy and cater to their demands.

When you truly do not give a crap about what they think, speak your truth, and stand your ground. They become unhinged.

The day he learned he could no longer manipulate me, is the day he became terrified.

You can't fake this. They will sniff it out. You have to really and truly be at the place where you are so done with them, you do not care if they are alive or dead.

Then, you become their kryptonite.

https://risingabovenarcissism.quora.com/How-to-make-a-narcissist-scared-of-you?topAns=338693319

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Why is the narcissistic personality dangerous?

My answer is going to touch upon a different level of philosophical and moral concerns, not just the common answer that “narcissists destroy your life.” We already know they do.

So to begin with, the narcissistic personality will ruin your life, or come very close to it.

Unfortunately, our planet is a cold and cruel place that seems to reward people according to how they present themselves instead of seeking true value. We know that narcissists or psychopaths are always acting charming and "funny" to begin with. So if you utilise a mask and are a fake narcissistic person, you are able to garner lots of rewards.

There are also people who, for some evil reason, keep running only into such fake and immoral narcissists and psychopaths, and this can literally soul-kill a person, especially empaths. Empaths are said to be quite rare and yet many of them are targets or victims of dangerous narcissists and psychopaths. (I will use the term narcissist throughout this post for brevity’s sake.)

INFJ's are also often targets of narcissists. I am an INFJ/highly sensitive and have had run ins with more than a few narcissists, both male and female. What we mean by highly sensitive or empathic, is that such people have not only a high level of empathy, but they are often uncorrupted to begin with. These are people who have a natural sense of wonder and may be quite creative. They may be bookworms, artists, musicians, people who love poetry, those who are in love with beauty in a world that is cruel and ugly. They are easy marks for nasty and low-minded narcissists, not because they are weak, but because they are exceptional. Most victims of narcissists are kind, exceptional people.

So I first have to ask how value can thrive or even survive, if we keep rewarding fake, devious narcissists, and the good people of the planet end up in a bad way from being constantly abused? There is only so much a person can take.

Narcissists enjoy corrupting good people, in fact, I have heard a malignant narcissist say this to me once, with a big smile on his face.

And this world really is not a pleasant place. Every day, innocent and beautiful animals are slaughtered among the millions in factory farms. Children are violated and murdered every minute, every hour. The fact that innocence does not stand a chance in this world is a testament to the fact that narcissists will thrive and achieve their aims, because no one can stop them, and even if we try, our attempts are often unsuccessful. Have you ever tried to warn a new supply, a friend, or family member? They would rather throw you under a bus than listen to someone who is trying to help. People want so badly to believe in illusions. It’s our own inability to understand that what seems too good to be true, actually is.

Our system itself is also an illusion. Our system is set up in such a way that people on the social hierachy or pyramid cannot rise from their situations. This includes the courts and our systems of justice. It is intentionally so. They have purposefully allowed narcissism to thrive in our environment so that we cannot fight the graver injustices that occur. I believe that the APA isn't telling us the truth about how many narcissists are actually out there. In this way, they can keep their business open for prescribing countless medications to treat depression and constant visits for therapy, when in fact, the narcissism epidemic is behind a lot of the pain and anguish in this world. Psychiatry is big business too, and fits right in with everything else in this sick society that utilizes money as both tool and weapon.

It's mostly done on purpose.

Think about it. If you get victimised by a narcissist, lose everything, and cannot get over the trauma, how will you have the energy or will to fight bigger battles?

This is why narcissism is dangerous, not just to the individual victims, but society as a whole. It is a very destructive "virus" of sorts that is spreading. People who were once joyful, full of hope, and happiness, become shadows of themselves after narcissistic abuse. The ability to trust is gone. The very meaning of life may even shatter. The way narcissists treat people as disposable cheapens our life, and makes it seem like a game. We see the “happy” narcissist run off into the sunset after destroying others mentally, emotionally, physically, spiritually, and financially, with yet another supply, knowing that the game will never end, as long as people are not educated on this topic. It's very grim, and very depressing, but it is reality.

In sum, this planet is not as nice as some people make it out to be. For many, it is an existence of great suffering. Corruption seems to be the name of the game.

And if the narcissist doesn't corrupt your morality from close enmeshment, then their abuse, cruelty, and discard will absolutely make you a different person. You may become vehemently angry, outraged by the injustice, and unable to comprehend how this person can cause so much devastation, walk away, and not care in the least.

The only way to combat this is by communicating (sharing experiences), exposing (spreading awareness), and supporting others (moral support/spiritual support) who have been through this travesty or abberation of nature, that is, the narcissist. I'm not even sure if they are human to be honest.

I’m not saying this to be rude, I just don’t even know anymore what they actually are. I’ve been among enough of them to know they are driven by jealousy and hatred, which is disturbing enough aside from the intentional abuse. The fact that they also steal from you, take whatever they can get, and then leave or force you to leave them for your sanity, just makes it even more cruel. Especially if you are ill or not useful to them. Then they just find another supply who will adore the false masked demon and reward them for their bad behaviours. This issue is reaching a crisis point. We need to keep spreading awareness every day.

That is all I have to say for this answer, as there is no other actual answer.

https://www.quora.com/Why-is-the-narcissistic-personality-dangerous?topAns=1477743729302217

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[tellomon]

Is narcissistic abuse the church's business?

They tell you what you should do
but won't help you physically.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aUMUZcUuvls

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When Narcissists Realize That You're Not The Stupid & Weak Person They Previously Thought

It's all fun and games until you play it better than them and never be sorry about it.

When a narcissist mistakes an empath's kindness, generosity and vulnerability for stupidity and gets checked, it angers them and makes THEM feel stupid and ashamed. Empaths have no problem with that whatsoever!! To blow a narcissist's mind this way and have them slither off into the sunset is a blessing!

Do not take an empath kindness for weakness.  You will wish you hadn't.  We don't play.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4DeQ712zSBY

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11 COWARDLY Tactics Of The COVERT NARCISSIST

Narcissists get terribly disappointed when they find that you're not as needy and helpless as they expected you to be, and don't need their messiah complex kind of help.

Then they feel bad when you're successful without them and make a big display of telling you how happy they are for you and "how much better" you are now, which is an underhanded insult implying you were pathetic in their eyes.

Some hide it better than others, but their mental instability surfaces under duress, when little to nothing they say makes sense, i.e. incongruence in their thoughts coming out in words.

They interrupt you not to shut you up, but to keep you from completing a logical thread.  They are trying to keep you from realizing something by redirecting your line of thought. 

The more confused you feel the more likely you're dealing with a Narc. That confusion is not love, you're not soul mates, twin flames, nothing like that. Politely get out. 'Sorry I'm very busy at the moment'.

Be vague.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=unyspI8AtSI&t=515s

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6 People Narcissists Hate The MOST!

@ronaldculley
1 month ago
One day I woke up with a bad arm. My Narc says "I can't have deadbeats living here". What a charmer....

@jewelleemay
1 month ago (edited)
I would have came back with- "Get out then!"

@Cheyenne-og8db
1 month ago
"Thump thump thump" says the deadbeat arm. Good Humor Honey!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-7pel8tOwGg

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Why Narcissists HATE When You Stop Reacting to Them

@PeterAcrat
2 years ago
This is why a healthy relationship with anyone narcissistic is a No-Win for peaceful people.
Get out; Stay out.
Find someone authentic who thinks and feels more deeply, and values stability and their personal growth.

@eazyc404
1 year ago
Their best relationships are often with people that were just as abusive as them: Trauma Bonding

@heavyjoechipman3594
7 months ago
Bro, I couldn't have said this better. Thank you. Peace is everything. God bless you and yours.

@peterknyk1942
2 years ago
The narcissists anger and bullying increases when I do not or try to not acknowledge her or her existence....her need for "attention" is so overwhelming....she will use just about anything in her "bag of tricks" to let me know how angry or hateful she is....

@hmmetzify
2 years ago
They have NO LIMITS

@shaniecegullison
10 months ago
Same with mine. They really will go as low as they can go and then go even lower than you ever thought they possibly could.


@roberts7363
2 years ago
I'm finding it very difficult to estimate how far each of my narc-family members would really go. My mother started to spread the rumor that I have serious mental problems. The last thing was my father (they are divorced for over 10 years and have normally no contact at all), suddenly treating me like he would think I want to kill myself.
After that I've contacted a lawyer! It kinda sounds exaggerated, but I would not dare to consume anything she has cooked or poured.

@Itsjustcazzata
1 year ago
Them creating an argument when you’re venting about your personal pain is one of their sickest traits.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5GStB2qJnV4

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And now.......

[tellomon]

25 Signs of Covert Narcissism
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5Tfg0veZHgk

9 Very Subtle Signs Of Covert Narcissism
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FzO4-HDs3sw

Phil In The Blanks | Covert Narcissist Intro
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gYJZpJy7YsU

The Silent Manipulators: 6 Warning Signs of Covert Narcissists
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HomHlS3ETPw

WHAT THE NARCISSIST REALLY CARES ABOUT
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z11tLM23rck

10 Ways Narcissists Make YOU Look Like The Problem
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B7TpG2ZZeaU&t=47s

Fear - I Don't Care About You
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4ACKEGCvLtI

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The American Ballad of Ultimate Decay
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jB8TiPwg7zI

The Narcissistic Western Civil Action
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bZJzw7LSXc0

Institutional Public Disgrace
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LoF_a0-7xVQ

Lost AngeleX
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fUiZHt6sqg4

God is in The Garbage (The Flies of The Lord)
https://youtu.be/fzI-SukS4Ww?t=3245

JERKS of The STREET
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sDwcHUeG6Nc

Dad Ken's Law Vehicle
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PScmRiaZhwk

iPop-Love for Hypnotized Chickens
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HuBU3pzy7is

EXTOLS - Don't Touch Us
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wHiGR0iuTUo

Some Lyrics That Narcissists Oppose
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_9fpZNI8lDU&t=367s

[tellomon]

Start questioning if it’s
brain damage. 

Better to think that way than to believe people could be this intentionally damaging.

                                       

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B7TpG2ZZeaU&t=47s