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The Round Table / Re: Tales From The Narc Side
« Last post by tellomon on April 23, 2024, 08:29:45 AM »
What will a narcissist do when
they know they can't win?

Narcissists never play fair. Narcissists make rules, break rules, and change rules according to their needs and situations. Narcissists want to prove themselves correct in every situation; proving themselves right is the ultimate goal of narcissists.

When narcissists feel they don't have a point or are unable to defend themselves, they'll start gaslighting and bringing back your past mistakes. Narcissists will create false stories, lie, cheat, manipulate and deceive to put you down. Narcissists might behave in a in a passive, aggressive way to punish you. Narcissists will give you silent treatment to punish you. The main motive of a narcissist is to break you down until you surrender. Narcissists don't have logic or understanding; they completely operate on ego.

You can win only when you leave a narcissist.
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They play victim, justify their actions, and retell their skewed story of how the relationship ended to gain narcissistic supply from others. They take no genuine accountability, they offer no solace to those they have wronged, and remediation, especially public remediation, is out of the question. Narcissists will find a way to win, even if they have to recreate history to avoid consequences for their own actions.
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Anything you possibly can think of.

They'll take you to court. Tell a sob story of how much YOU hurt them, when in reality, they were the ones who bankrupt you. Or didn't pay child support.

They'll get their friends or acquaintances to start messaging you. (Flying Monkeys)

But of course- these people have absolutely no idea what happened in your relationship with this Narc.

They hear the watered down version of your relationship- leaving out every single abusive thing they did or said to you.

They'll message you anonymously on Social Media. Leave cryptic messages you know that the two of you only understand.

They may even attempt to physically hurt you. They'll show up at your work, or house to intimidate you.

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The Round Table / Re: Tales From The Narc Side
« Last post by tellomon on April 23, 2024, 08:15:38 AM »
How Narcissists Play
Both Sides Of The
Victim Game

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=80S5UcUEZ0I



@wakeupordie
1 day ago (edited)
The narcissist insults you, belittles you, gaslights you, slanders and defames you, and when you express normal feelings about that such as: hurt, frustration, or anger, guess what the narcissist says? "You have a victim mentality".
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The Round Table / Re: Tales From The Narc Side
« Last post by tellomon on April 23, 2024, 08:07:47 AM »
The Most Disturbing Twist
in Narcissistic Abuse

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b-mSEcxfsqQ


Not knowing is the worst part of dealing with one; but once you know, game over.
They are such simplistic, self defeating, li'l creatures.
On another note, narcissists are more harmful than real ghosts.
The best way is no contact-ignore them-block their phones and be happy and free!!! Game over for the narcissist!!!!!
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The Round Table / Re: Tales From The Narc Side
« Last post by tellomon on April 23, 2024, 07:58:14 AM »
This Is How Narcissists
Secretly Undermine You

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Uii8KeuVA1Y

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The Round Table / Re: Tales From The Narc Side
« Last post by tellomon on April 23, 2024, 07:46:24 AM »
11 SMART Ways to Deal with
TOXIC People | STOICISM

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NGAcXNs9p4E
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The Round Table / Re: Tales From The Narc Side
« Last post by tellomon on April 23, 2024, 07:38:23 AM »
This is a tactic to put narcissists
in their place so they will
shut up and suffer

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JUobmb73V88

@fenderblue9485
4 hours ago
They have ZERO empathy and life's only about them.
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The Round Table / Re: Tales From The Narc Side
« Last post by tellomon on April 23, 2024, 07:29:25 AM »
NARCISSISTS ARE DEMONIC, WATCH OUT : Relationship advice

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X3PqY1kZpGE


@LN-pm5yl
10 months ago
People who say narcissists are not demons have not been with one. I married one and had kids with another and they both nearly drove me to action I wont verbalize. I did not believe in evil until this happened to me. They will terrorize you and leave you for dead if you allow it.
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The Round Table / Re: Tales From The Narc Side
« Last post by tellomon on April 23, 2024, 07:20:00 AM »
The narc operates from The Dark Side.

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/O8rpI8Kwp2s
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The Round Table / Re: Tales From The Narc Side
« Last post by tellomon on April 23, 2024, 06:56:16 AM »
Does the narcissist treat the one after me as badly
as he did me?

This topic is the one that scrambles your heart and mind even more than it was…

It will appear that someone is getting all promised you. It will appear that another is getting what you only wished for, now stolen from you. This will linger as you watch, follow, hear about them after you, with someone else.

You may have been abruptly thrown away at your lowest, feeling less than in ways you can't even relate to. You may be relating to where they went and with who. You will either forget what you endured or believe it was just you. This is the most wicked lie you probably believe.

What makes it even worse is that an extremely emotionally and psychologically ill individual is rubbing someone else in your face or, you think that they moved on naturally….healthy and "normal" now. The first part, highly likely, the second part….a wicked deception in self deception as well.

By pure willpower and a fight for your own new "normal" you may try to do the same. They are doing it and seems to be working very well for them. The huge problem there is that they are the same person that abused you always, having nothing to do with you.

Sadly, you aren't the same for now and you may think that just "moving on" is the end-all-be-all cure in your potential state. That's not happening. Either you can't just "move on" as you desperately needed or you are extremely vulnerable to similarities in the lack of unhealthy attachments, the same, maybe worse for now.

In the attempt to do what they are capable of doing, your inability to do the same may just add to your unclear and unknowing state in a perpetual cycle of your own….

The abuser, the manipulator, the gaslighter, the one incapable of caring, making the choice in not caring will be who they were with you. They did it before you and after in continuum….

It wasn't you. But, the damage done to you needs healing and truth for any possibility of you "moving on" in your life, with someone who was everything opposite from the one that that is perpetually damaging no matter who they are with and how it appears to you.
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Yep, yes, you got it, absolutely! The only thing that changes in a narcissist’s life is the supply. The narc will tell the new supply they are the best thing that ever happened to them, they are the love of their life. I can attest to the fact I was only one in a long string of “ loves of my life.”

When we first met she dumped the guy she was in a relationship with so she could love bomb me into being her new supply. When I asked about the nature of her relationship with him, she instantly denied any relationship. Jump forward to the present, her son asks whatever happened to this guy since they were always together. So. He too was one of a series of men she hooked through sex, used up, tossed away because each of them meant absolutely nothing to her.

Each was merely a d*ck to be used until a more interesting one came along. A supply is disposable, ALWAYS! The narc will tell the same tale of woe about each of the discarded supply - one would think all the supply were brothers from the same family with the exact same faults.

A narc will eventually treat a new supply exactly the same way when ready to discard the supply. In this way narcissists are very predictable, they show no imagination. They generally reserve imagination for hunting and snaring their next prey. So, know your ex narc will treat the next supply as badly if not worse. Just wait for it, sooner or later it will happen.
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No, not always. Sometimes the narc uses the new one to “prove” that they are a nice person, that you were LYING or imagining it, so your allegations never have any credibility.

My abusive ex’s new partner, the ugly giant chinned beotch, testified in family court that he was not controlling or abusive in any way. What a dumb monkey but she did make me look a liar.

I knew that my ex was switching it off for her - eg. not being a narc with her, using her to make himself look good, and it worked, at least for a while.
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Pretty much.

Do not be surprised if he would one day make a return out of mere curiosity to see if you would be miserable or even worse without them. The kicker would be if they would see that you would be miserable they would seem disgusted of such, yet if you would have managed and had moved on they then would seem even more tempted to make a return. They would seem to really like the chase.

Would it mean that if they would make a return that it would be better though? Nope. They would seem to repeat themselves', unable to ever reflect and would merely be repeating the process. So what you had gone through before it would likely happen once again this time around too.

They may be prone to cycling back to prior partners if they would be having a dry spell and not much luck.

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The Round Table / Re: Tales From The Narc Side
« Last post by tellomon on April 23, 2024, 05:53:00 AM »
How do I get a narcissist to
actually love me?

That’s easy. If you want to get a narcissist to fall in love with you, just follow these ten little rules:

Believe everything he says and support everything he does.

Give him everything he wants without expecting anything in return.

Faithfully keep all of his secrets.

Trust that his version of events is true.

Never question, contradict or criticize him.

Believe that he would never cheat on you, despite any evidence to the contrary.

Cheerfully accept all of his verbal and/or physical “corrections,” as they’re for your own good.

Understand that his silent treatments are an important part of your self-improvement plan.

Never expect an apology or explanation for anything he has said or done.

Tell him every day how much you adore him, and how lucky you are to have him in your life.

Okay, got that? Sounds good, huh? He’s sure to love you forever if you just follow the rules, right? Well… not so much.

There’s one teensy thing that I forgot to mention: A NARCISSIST IS INCAPABLE OF LOVING *ANYONE* BUT HIMSELF. Period.

Get far, far away from every narcissist you encounter in your life.

Immediately.

And stay away, no matter how much sweet talk and/or abuse they pile on to get you to change your mind. If you don’t get out, your very survival will be at risk.

Take my word for it: I speak from way too many years of experience.

I wish you peace.

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