How do narcissists destroy their own relationships?
Relationships are spots where they can assert dominance and express their compulsion to take revenge. Shifting blame explains how they face failures. So, a relationship is little more than a time and place to fool others and repay them for their own personal suffering and lack of love long ago and what happens again tomorrow.
Relationships maximize their success in life through our constant attempt to rescue them from themselves. Watching innocent people volunteer for continued abuse is both gratifying servitude (slavery) and eventually turns into disgust. The challenge is no longer satisfying once disgust or boredom sets in. So, being disgusted by the foolish lover justifies the torture, abuse, and destruction of the relationship, assets, and person who used to charm them convincingly.
The shelf life of the relationship times out with the emergence of their feelings of disgust. They can’t believe you love them when you tolerate their intentional abuse and forgive their cheating and lying. So, they see the behavior of loving someone so broken as they are as pathetic. It’s time to move on again and find someone new who can give more for longer and then accept their fate more gracefully.
Very twisted and self-defeating. We waste our time hoping for anything better from these miserable and broken souls.
Good luck, Mac