Tales From The Narc Side

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"Is anybody listening to me?

Paying attention here?

Show me. I sense failure coming on...."

Trust me, it isn't about beer money.....

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"I'm not giving up. I'm taking a break."

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The BIG Letter

Narcissistic Domestic Partner / Landlord Retaliatory Eviction / Felony / Torts Case

 
From:
m86thecat@yahoo.com
To:
info@ifhmb.com
Thu, May 9 at 11:06 PM

Inland Fair Housing and Mediation Board
1500 South Haven Ave. Suite 100 | Ontario, CA 91761
Phone: 800-321-0911 | Fax: 909-460-0274
info@ifhmb.com

Hello;

I am Ronald Culley, aka Ron Tello.

I believe I have contacted you before this year and received no satisfaction.
I have recently contacted Adult Protective Services (APS), who has given me your number. I have been going around in circles for several months trying to secure Legal Aid and now I am trying you again.

My ex-girlfriend is the landlord where I live in Big Bear. She is a Narcissist*, actively trying to evict me as a tenant. I am NOT a tenant.

I AM A RESIDENT; A LAWFUL (FORMER) DOMESTIC PARTNER.

I am disabled, unemployed, indigent, have no resources, forsaken and nowhere to go. (APS has set out to deal with SSI for I have been denied it in recent years.) My Bank shut me down from overdrafts (account will be closed 5/18 if I don't pay $198)

I HAVE NO MONEY, I am existing merely on Food Stamps, recyclables and the Good Graces of Others....I made a few bucks from fundraising on various YouTube talk show appearances.

In 2015 I was invited and physically brought here from a state of homelessness as it was the result of a corrupt Court System in Elko County, Nevada **. I declare myself a Political Refugee. Now, the Refuge is being compromised.

She is again abusing the law to have her way, i.e. she has done this a dozen times over the past 8 1/2 years (Pattern of Abuse). This is a Retaliatory Eviction because I refused to play her Narc games and endure her continuing abuses. She will not respect my Boundaries and insults my Humanity and Intelligence. At no time have I committed any legal/obligatory offenses.

She has NO Legal Grounds; she claims she is the Victim, as is standard behavior with all narcissists.This is pure irrational emotionalism.
In the alternative, emotional irrationality. Mental instability. Detachment from reality. Insane.

Since late last year she has been living in her RV in Ventura with another man ("New Supply") All has been well until now; repeat attempts and lies to remove me without empathy or remorse.

In the lexicon of Narcissistic Abuse, this is called "Narcissistic Discard" ***

In January this year she issued to me a harassing 30-day notice and threatened a 90-day. To date, no follow through. This I declare is Wilful Infliction of Emotional Distress, Judicial Abuse and Malice Aforethought.

Also, she issued a "Proposal", whereas, I can accept the 30-day and play that game, or I could accept her offer of $3,000 to pay my taxes for my Nevada (distressed, uninhabitable) Property and move out in 30 days.

Absolutely humanly impossible in this current unaffordable housing-shortage market. Without sustainable income, this is clearly NOT a rational offer. I went with the Eviction Process.
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MEANWHILE, IF I FAIL TO SECURE $1300 FOR MY TAXES BY MAY 30, 2024, I WILL LOSE EVERYTHING. I NEED HER TO PAY!! SHE OFFERED TO PAY IF I MOVE OUT. SHE CAN PAY AS I STAY IN DURING THE MEDIATION PROCESS. FRAME IT AS A PERSONAL LOAN, CONTINGENT UPON THE SALE OF MY HOUSE AND ITS CONTENTS.

Banks refused me a Home Equity loan due to no credit history.
Family denies me and friends are poor and few. I'm holding out for hope on one man in Montello, Nevada, the location of my House.
It's always 50/50 in my life.
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The 30-day Notice did not have a Proof of Service page, and I found out it was NOT filed with the Court. This is FRAUDULENT! An abuse of the Legal Process. Also, the issuing Law Office is culpable of malfeasance.

I am claiming Breach of Duty of Care, Breach of Trust, Breach of Covenant and Elderly Abuse. She deliberately denied me a regular stipend of money and heating fuel, plus, out of spite, she took away her unused blanket from my bed, claiming I was getting it dirty. (Oh but it stays clean on her bed, 3 feet away from mine. Sure.) 

I continue to live up to my end of our agreement: Chores in lieu of cash rent. I was never obligated to pay cash rent or utilities.

This action by the Landlord/Ex is violence, threatening my health and well being. A Quality of Life Offense. It is a HATE CRIME. I need to defend myself from this monstrous hostility and deprivation.

She has maliciously denied me all means of support and verbally stated she wants to see me homeless. I have it on audio tape and she knows it. She actually thanked me for recording her, thinking it would play-out in her favor. In reality, it's probative evidence against her.

As a Narcissist, she wants me to suffer. Mission accomplished.

I seek Mediation and Recompense; a Civil Suit settled out of Court.

All I need is for someone in Authority to encourage her to pay up or suffer the consequences of Felony Adult Abuse and Torts 1 thru 100 Lawsuit.

Please, will you help me?

Thank you.

-Ron Tello Culley
XXXX San Bernardino Ave.
PO Box 5602
Sugarloaf, CA 92386


* https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Narcissism

** http://www.ozroundtable.com/index.php?topic=7992.msg669609#msg669609

*** https://www.quora.com/What-is-a-narcissists-discard

https://jointheroyalwe.com/about-1/f/the-final-discard-stage-of-narcissistic-abuse#:~:text=Ultimately%2C%20the%20final%20discard%20stage,no%20choice%20but%20to%20leave.

https://www.medicinenet.com/why_does_a_covert_narcissist_discard_you/article.htm

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The "Proposal"

From: Sherry Kopack
To: m86thecat@yahoo.com
Sent: Monday, January 15, 2024 at 10:15:10 PM PST
Subject: Options/eviction

Attention, Ronald Culley.
When I saw you on the 6th of January, 2024, you had received an eviction notice, which will be carried out if you don't accept my offer by the 30th of January, 2024.

I had offered to pay your moving expenses, and to also pay your property taxes. I'm letting you know that the total cost of the moving expenses and the cost of your property taxes will NOT exceed $3,000.00...I will pay you what ever is left  after the move is completed, which will be done  by February 6th, 2024. We can both sign an agreement to this offer.

Keep in mind, that by accepting this offer, your move must be completed by February 6th, 2024. This offer will be void on midnight, January 30th, 2024, and the money that would have gone to help you will go to an unlawful detainer, instead.

To be  delivered to
XXXX San Bernardino Ave.
Sugarloaf, Ca. -92386-

Sherry Kopack
Sent from Yahoo Mail on Android

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From:
m86thecat@yahoo.com
To:
info@ifhmb.com

Wed, May 15 at 11:24 AM

Hello;

Your office called me yesterday and I was not able to speak.
The lady said she would call back on Thursday.

I must add to my case notes the following:

My narcissistic landlord was here removing her possessions from the room which I occupy.

I laid low, no contact for the duration of her (and new guy) visit.

When no one was in the area, she entered my room and verbally assaulted me. Yelling. Accusing and abusing me, claiming I am no good, have not done my work here, etc. (Details in my notes)

The most chilling thing of all is: I yelled back "You are violating my Tenant Rights!"

Her exact response "YOU DON'T HAVE RIGHTS".

Also, she has removed my possessions from the room, a clear violation of everything.

The tension and level of violence has now escalated.
She has laid hands on me before.
Know this: Narcissists are volatile, unstable characters.
I predicted, and posted on social media that a confrontation would ensue. I was correct.

I now claim that she is willing and capable of taking her unfounded angst towards me to new levels of criminality.

Please enter this info into my Case File, and I look forward to hearing from your office tomorrow.

Thank you.

-Ron Tello Culley

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What happens when you show
no emotions towards a narcissist?

They get confused.

They keep trying to make you upset.

They do something sneaky without you knowing, like lying, cheating, or stealing.

They might try to start a fight over something small or blame you for things to get a reaction.

They talk to other people who support them and say bad things about you.

Then, they start treating you badly, making you feel unimportant and confused.

They spend more time on social media, looking for attention.

When they find someone new who doesn't know them well but likes them, they keep trying to impress them.

Meanwhile, they treat you worse, showing less care and being mean.

You might decide to leave, or they might decide to end things with you.

The story is over until the narcissist gets bored. Then, they might try to come back (hoovering).

You can choose to stop talking to them completely, or the narcissist might start the same cycle again. This can happen over and over until you decide to cut off contact for real.
You might feel sad about the time you wasted and that someone tricked you. It's good to talk to someone for advice on why this happened and how to avoid it in the future.

Finally, because you are smart, you move on. Later, you might look back and laugh, realizing you can't believe you fell for someone like them.

Don't forget this, no matter how long it takes to feel better, find support, and you will get through it!

https://www.quora.com/What-happens-when-you-show-no-emotions-towards-a-narcissist

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What do narcissists feel inside?

They feel :

Powerful in a relationship, they need to be seen as the dominant force. If you challenge them in any way, you’ve irreversibly harmed their pride and are likely on the road to being discarded.

More Important than you . They can’t be with someone who makes them feel inferior or take the spotlight away.

Noticed from their perspective, it always feels like the world isn’t recognizing their amazing talent . They think they're God’s gift to mankind.

Need to be worshiped . They need that partner to express their love to the fullest whenever they’re around, and especially when anyone else is around. Narcissists want others to see that their partner worships the ground they walk on.

They feel like you’re in control, at every moment. It’s that ego fragility that makes narcissists so dangerous to be around; they can snap at any moment when they feel threatened.

A narcissist wants you to fill in all the little cracks in their ego.

They want you to recognize all of their good qualities and ignore the unsavory ones.

They want you to make them look better whenever you’re together.

They want you to get out of the way when they are BORED with you and they go looking for a NEW SOURCE OF SUPPLY !

https://www.quora.com/What-do-narcissists-feel-inside

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Why does a narcissist always try to defend his lies?

BECAUSE HIS LIES IS ALL HE'S GOT.

The narcissist has literally nothing else to offer you.

Lies.

Upon those lies you build hope.

And there you have your narcissistic relationship.

Lies and futile hope.

There's nothing else in the stars for you.

Not as long as you entertain this narcissist.

The narcissist always defends his lies so you can always keep on hoping.

Hoping that you're wrong.

Hoping that he will understand.

Hoping that he will change.

Until one day you'll realize that you’ve been giving your all, for absolutely nothing in return.

Nothing but lies.

Some people wasted 6 months doing that.

Some wasted 45 years.

It all depends on your level of delusion.

Good luck.

https://narsholethelonelygrifter.quora.com/Why-does-a-narcissist-always-try-to-defend-his-lies

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What does a narcissist
do when you told them you
know they are lying to you?

Deny it.

Lie about the lie.

Gaslight you to make you think you're going insane.

Blame shift.

Belittle you.

Demean you.

Rage.

Change the subject.

Leave the room and come back like it never happened.

Any tactic possible to avoid taking full accountability.

A true narcissist will never accept accountability for their actions.

https://www.quora.com/unanswered/What-happens-to-narcissists-when-you-lie-to-them?__nsrc__=4

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Here's how narcissists lie
and get away when
they are caught

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oHZRADdcN9k

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What does a narcissist do when they
know that their partner has
figured them out?

Omgeeee…. This is not a gud thing for them. It makes them angry and powerless. They realise they are no longer in control and because of this they will try to end the relationship.. not because they want to but because the realise u are not feeding their ego anymore.

My husband told me he doesn't want a wife who question anything he does. I should say ok to whatever and there will always be peace 😆.

He now realizes how strong willed I am and doesn't depend on him for anything. He doesn't like that either. He wants me to wrk one job even though he ain't giving me sh!t and I stood up to him and let him know that this is not his decision to make until he can at least try to assist in supporting me financially. Until then stfu.

Right now he wants me out. But I ain't going nowhere until am ready. Screw him.

https://www.quora.com/What-does-a-narcissist-do-when-they-know-that-their-partner-has-figured-them-out

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Why does everyone say you can't win against a narcissist?

You can't win against a narcissist, because they don't care, and you do –

It's a rigged playing field.

People who try to “win” against the narcissist, usually do so by trying to attain some form of moral high-ground, demonstrating to the narcissist all that is wrong with them, how bad they have been, etc.

Might as well be reading the narcissist a bedtime story, because while you are trying to show them the wrong of their ways, they are just awe-struck by how boring you have become now wishing you leave them for good and don't return.

You only “win” against the narcissist, by reaching that point of equally not-caring, and most people don't have it in them to reach that point. (After all, narcissists are humans too with at least some potential for good, or at least that is what many insist on believing…)

The point where you realize the narcissist's abuse against you, in a way, was your own allowing. Now your boundaries are stronger, and you no longer entertain these human pests, you have seen the light.

No hard feelings, it all served a purpose – you now have a new world, which they shall never partake in!

And, of course, you must withdraw yourself and engage in these things more interesting than them, where you no longer think, obsess, ruminate over them.

Because even if you do “move on” and do other things, if they continue to live in your mind rent-free, you feel their energy, it just shows they are the best, most interesting thing, you still have in your life. And you don't even have them!!

So where does that leave you?

Right where the narcissist wants you.

https://www.quora.com/Why-does-everyone-say-you-cant-win-against-a-narcissist

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Why Narcissists Can't Maintain Relationships
and Instead Destroy Them

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ohb7ilqHOK4

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WHEN THERE IS
NO ONE LEFT
TO BLAME

When there is, no one left to blame. One of the abusive techniques the narcissist uses is blame shifting they want to blame their partner blame their children blame their situations blame other people. This is shallow and hollow on the behalf of the narcissist, but this is how they exist. The narcissist cannot accept responsibility for any of their poor behavior rather they blame other people and they say things like if you didn’t do this I wouldn’t have done that etc.

The narcissist is stuck in their tiny little brain. They believe the world revolves around them, but they don’t realize eventually there will be no one left to blame, and the narcissist will have to come to terms with all of the relationships that they’ve blown up. Continue on the path moving forward every day. Namaste.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V3V97QZd84E

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Here's The Narcissist's
Resentment & Incompetence,
and How You Can't Rely On Them.

Narcissists have more than one life. They put in a lot of work to make their public image look almost perfect, and they use fake friendliness and charm to get people to like them. But they're scary behind closed doors, like poisonous snakes. It's hard to figure out what they're thinking. They are very good at pulling strings and can really mess up people's lives. You have no reason to think that narcissists will stay the same and that you will be the only one hurt.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2wpDtLMOs3Y

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What is so dangerous
about a narcissist?

Narcissists are dangerous because they are evil in human disguise. Narcissists come into your life to destroy you; they take everything from you. Narcissists main motive is to see your downfall and destruction. Narcissists don't have empathy, sympathy, or remorse; they come into relationships just to feed on you. You give everything to narcissists; they take everything from you, and then they destroy you emotionally, mentally, and even physically.

After taking everything from you and destroying you , they will blame you and spoil your reputation. Narcissists are truly evil people.

Narcissists are evil; their sole purpose is to take everything from you. It's the mask, which doesn't allow people to see who they are.

https://getoverthenarcissist.quora.com/What-is-so-dangerous-about-a-narcissist?fbclid=IwZXh0bgNhZW0CMTAAAR1THeIG-ElZy8GptfgaXRtUz0MEm3yDbz_Bm3pTDiTjKrKQPiWHTd3vFKE_aem_AUmM5LJkauGx0eQsyhfYRhu0E11MOG3N19K9MQ8Mls5YiTqYu99TU_lw74tJwYgSCVNiOn2RMKqEGRcq8iJBn5U8

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Why do narcissists
discard their partners?

"Buckle up and hold onto your seats, ladies & gents. It’s going to be a wild ride!"


A narcissist will discard of you in the most callous way imaginable. It will come out of left field and hit you right in the face like a hard rock. You will come out of it confused, bewildered and disoriented not knowing how the person who claimed to love every part about you, now thinks you are absolutely repulsing to them.

You can’t understand how one moment you are spending all this time together, staying in touch frequently, to now getting blocked, shunned, cut off and demeaned. You can’t fathom how cruel they are being to you, when all you did was be a kind-hearted person to them. You go from being the centre of their attention, to them now wanting nothing to do with you.

You will be quickly demoted from their supply chain when they have started to get bored of you; which happens with every single person they entangle into their toxic web. Once they have used up all the good things that you have done for them, then they no longer have any care to keep you around.

You were once their favourite and number one pick, but without a second thought they will kick you straight to the curb with a new person already groomed to take your place. This person is now taking up all their free time, and getting all their undivided attention and love-bombing. They are saying all the sweet things to them like they used to say to you. While they are making you seem irrelevant by dismissing you out of their lives, they are telling this new person how special they are. They have found someone whom they consider to be “better” than what you have provided them.

Narcissists want variety, and don’t want to settle down or cater to meet the needs of one person for the rest of their lives. The thought of that is insane to them. They love the idea of people being loyal to them, but that will never be reciprocated back. They want to be able to sleep with whoever they want without question, and expect you to put up with it, or else you will be tossed aside in an instant.

They want to be able to flirt with neighbours, strangers, your friends, your family, co-workers or any random person they met online or at a club and they expect you to look the other way & accept it, or else you are crazy, jealous, insecure and controlling. They want to be able to use their social media platforms as a way to hook up with other people, and could care less about your feelings about it. They want to be able to blow all their money on drinking and doing drugs, partying, the sex industry, gambling or anything other than taking care of responsibilities.

Then they will go and spend all of your hard-earned money too without hesitation. They will expect you to bend over backwards for them, sacrificing your dignity, self-respect and identity, and nothing will ever be enough for them, no matter how hard you try. They used to love hearing from you, and now they find everything that you do or say to be annoying. They will say that you are smothering them, that you are needy, clingy and controlling. They will do all these things on purpose, and then they will turn around and blame you for it. You will finally get to a point where you confront them because it’s just getting too much and you feel like you are constantly walking on eggshells just to make them happy.

They will discard of you when you start to call them out on their erratic, destructive, impulsive, irresponsible and reckless behaviour. In their minds they think “How dare you hold me accountable for deliberately hurting you!! Silly you, off you go.” They don’t want to hear any lip about how much pain, hurt, distress or abuse they have brought to your life.

They don’t want to listen to you telling them how upset you are that you caught them lying, cheating, or that you are bothered they flirt with other people. They don’t want to hear about how they are ignoring all your messages, and have been avoiding you. They want to be free to live their lives doing as they please, and don’t want to be held accountable for any of the ramifications of their actions.

They will also discard of you to elicit control over you. They do this just for the fun of it to see how far they can test you. One second you could be having the best time together, and you’ll wake up to only find that you’ve been blocked, they’ve changed their number, they’ve moved, they’ve quit their jobs and basically dropped off the face of the earth.
 
This will leave you in a state of panic and make you feel so abandoned because you grew so attached to them. You spend all your time just going crazy and trying to make it through each day when you can barely function. They leave you in unbearable pain while they seamlessly move on with their lives and slither like manipulative snakes onto the next victim without any regard for how they’ve left you to bleed out.

They will discard of you but not before they make you feel completely worthless, heartbroken, alone, and devastated. Before they send you off, their goal is to take more supply from you by watching you fall to your knees in pain not knowing how it all came to this. They love seeing you sacrificing everything for them, when they fully know they have others waiting in line willing to do the exact same. You don’t understand how all the amazing memories, and good times you shared are now all crumbled to shambles in pieces while they are creating them with someone else.

They discard of you because they don’t care about you. Really, they don’t. This is the most important thing to understand. While you may actually be in love with them, be loyal, be faithful and giving; they don’t think the same way you do.

They don’t understand commitment, or what it means to compromise for another person. They think of themselves in every moment at all costs and won’t let a single person get in the way of that. They could tell you that they want to spend the rest of their lives with you, that they will never leave you, and the second you turn around, they will be with someone else telling them the same things, and have casted you out of their lives faster then you can blink. They want the freedom to do as they please, no questions asked.

They discard of you because it gives them the thrill of knowing they have dominance and power over you. They love watching you beg, plead, cry, and being in distress, losing yourself over them. They are smearing you to their friends, and anyone else who will listen about what a horrible person you are.

Meanwhile, they are leaving out all the horrific things they said and did to you.

They will call you a crazy, stalking, annoying, jealous ex that won’t leave them alone when you try to just communicate with them. They do this as a way to triangulate you with their new supply and make them jealous. They want to make it seem like they have people head over heels for them, and that they have unlimited options.

They will discard of you because they don’t attach themselves to people. They will use whoever for whatever benefits them, and once something more enticing comes along, then it’s goodbye for you without a moments notice. They may cut you off for days, weeks, months or even years and then suddenly reappear if it suits their needs.

It doesn’t matter how much time passed, or how much damage they caused, they feel that they can come and go whenever they wish. They ensure that they choose the most empathic people, because we are the most forgiving. They will know all the right things to say and do to win you over again and it will just be the same repetitive cycle of abuse.

They will discard of you at the worst possible time. You could be going through some really difficult challenges and they will use this opportunity to abandon you. They do this to show you that they refuse to hold your hand through the tough times, and be someone you can depend on.

They will find whatever you are going through to be an inconvenience to them, so they will just drop you for one of their other supplies that isn’t “whining and complaining” and that is available for them at their beck and call. They will discard you during birthdays,holidays or any special occasion. If you are looking forward to something, they will find a way to ruin it for you and pull the disappearing act by ghosting you, giving you the silent treatment and refusing to engage with you.

They will also discard of you to make sure that you are submissive and complacent for future use. If they cut you off as punishment for standing up for yourself and you came back around begging, then they know they will have you right in the palm of their hands when they decide to worm their way back in, because you so desperately want to work things out with them.

You are willing to forget everything that happened just to get the chance to see them again. You are willing to sacrifice your own boundaries to allow a more open relationship that suits their needs because you don’t want to risk losing them again. You are willing to experiment sexually in ways you never have before just to keep them satisfied.

It’s all madness!
They treat you like a slave, and will leave you in an instant no matter how much you loved them, cared for them, or how long you’ve known them. It doesn’t matter if you have been together for decades, months or weeks; they will do what they want, when they want, with who they want, for as long as they live.

They will discard of you mercilessly, and without any remorse. They will do it unexpectedly like they are holding a gun to the back of your head & pull the trigger after they hear your cries. They will come at you full force like a blunt trauma impact and watch you suffer. They will stab you in the back, and twist the knife even further each time you keep letting them come back for more.

Once they discard of you, please take my advice and don’t ever lower yourself to chase after a person who cut you out so ruthlessly. They aren’t worth your time, your tears, your compassion, your effort, or your love. The longer you stay with them, and the longer you wait around for them to decide to want you again, you will lose yourself a little more each time until you no longer even recognize who you are.

That’s not a life worth living for any of us. Every person deserves to be loved back when they give their all. Nobody should have to endure abuse, being cheated on and repeatedly disrespected just for one person. We wouldn’t want our friends or family to go through that, so why would we want that for ourselves? Don’t ever think that you aren’t good enough, or that you won’t ever find someone else, or that you won’t be happy.

Anything is better (even being alone) then being constantly hurt, used, walked on, degraded, betrayed and tossed away like garbage.

“The people that are quick to walk away, are the ones who never intended to stay.”

https://www.quora.com/Why-do-narcissists-discard-their-partners

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Discarded and thrown away like a worthless
piece of garbage by someone who once said
they loved you can be horrible.

How does it feel to be discarded?

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You need to see the narcissist for what he or she is. They are empty shells, often with "larger than life" personalities, but that isn't even their true self.

I once went to Area 51 with the narcissist. I think he was obsessed with aliens because he is one. lol. On a more serious note, I remember something he asked a local in a bar. He asked "so do you guys have any apartments here for rent?" The guy at the bar nearly spit out his drink and just stared. The narcissist looked truly perplexed. It was Area 51, not prime real estate.

This was the same guy who would yell at me and say that I was stupid. Sure, I'm stupid, the person you're jealous of because I have the degrees you wish you had. This was the same guy who acted like Superman in front of me, flexing his so-called muscles and acting like he was King of the World. In front of other people though, he seemed a lot smaller, and less "powerful." It's weird, but everywhere we went, people liked me and would talk to me. Never to him. He literally becaome invisible.

So you need to see them for who they are. They aren't anyone. They do not even have a real personality. Everything they say or do is copied from someone else they know. Even their word salads are plagiarized. They try and invent some "style" from everything they're stored in their memory, like AI. They are AI people. They aren't even real. Robotic.

They will discard you, because you're too good for them. They must move on. Especially after they've been exposed. They will move on to the next supply, because they can't face themselves, and they cannot even make it on their own.

The next one (supply) may last longer. Maybe he or she doesn't talk back or argue. Maybe they stay silent, and cry in their sleep. They swallow back tears and stay with the narcissist, because they "love" them. But holding all that in is going to make them ill one day. They will get some disease from holding in all that stress. There is an actual paper written about how narcissists and psychopaths give their victims carcinogenesis. Being around abnormality for such a long time period will ultimately kill you from stress or disease.

So be glad that they are gone. You don't need them. They were just empty shells or AI automatons playing a part. I've written before that my ex narcissist would play out roles that he saw in sitcoms and films. That is how empty his life was, that he had no identity at all, and had to learn how to act or behave through an actor's character.
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It's honestly indescribable.

Because there are so many layers to it.

The deception is the first:

-If you grew up with a Narcissistic parent- but you had never experienced a romantic relationship with a Narcisisst before- it is night/day different.

-It is one thing when it is a Narcissistic parent who is lieing about when they are coming home- or verbally gaslighting you. You can somehow rarionalize in your brain that one day, you will move away, and never have to put up with this manipulation again.

It is another when you are in a romantic relationship, and you love this Narcissist.

Because you don't KNOW that they ARE a Narcissist to begin with.

They are kind, gentle, charming- and you have taken your time to trust them.

If you're like me, and you grew up in an abusive household- you don't trust people easily.

But Narcissists are very reassuring. They take their sweet time to Love Bomb you for 3 months.

They Future Fake you. Tell you about all the happy things they want to do with you.

And slowly, you begin to trust them.

You don't rush intimacy. You love them, but you are scared of getting your heart broken.

They reassure you that they love you though. And slowly you share more with them.

They've made you so happy you can't believe this is real. You actually can't believe that there are kind, caring people in this world.

And then- out of nowhere- one day you are discarded.

You're stunned. You can't even breathe. You have no idea what you did wrong.

And they don't explain anything. They don't want to talk about it. They've made up their mind, and they are done with you.

And you're heart is shattered. You're Trauma Bonded. You beg them to explain what you did wrong. You love them, and you can't believe this is happening.

And they may take you back. And maybe for 6 more months you'll date. But everyday gets worse. They don't tell you you're pretty any longer.

If you're sick in the hospital, they don't care. They'd rather look at pictures of random women, then be worried about you.

You start physically becoming sick. You look at your face, and you don't even recognize yourself any longer. The color is drained, and your light and happiness has slowly faded away.

You ask them, if they just used you. They tell you, “you provided stimulation.”

And you feel like a knife has been driven through your heart.

You can't believe this person you shared such intimate things about yourself with- that you loved, and would protect them with your life- could throw you away like you are absolutely nothing.

That's what being Discarded feels like. And this is why- many people may even commit suicide after being in a relationship with a Narcissist.
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Regardless of the time invested it’s devastating to think that someone you cared so deeply for planned a future with could so easily walk away with no closure. As if the relationship meant NOTHING to them.

The fact is that the relationship was merely a stepping stone to the next “love of their live—-—or should I say the love of their life until they get bored with them as well”. looking back you knew something was wrong and so you tried harder. The more you tried the more distain they had towards you. Now they’re gone? They ended the relationship a long time ago. You just didn’t know it They just wanted to make sure your replacement was suitable before they cast you aside like an old shoe.

Now what? You feel extreme anxiety and stress. You can’t focus on anything BUT how why when this person decided you weren’t good enough for them. This is when it’s advised to block this person and go no contact. This is to protect yourself from further hurt because what a true narcissist loves to do is mess with your head after the discard.

They will float in and out of your life if allowed. You’ll start feeling better and be moving on and they will send you a random text/email/VM with a simple “hi”. That one word WILL derail you and you basically start the healing in process over. Don’t snoop or follow or ask about this person. Move on and don’t look back. It’s hard. You will be sad you will be lonely BUT time will heal those wounds.

They very rarely change and any time or energy trying to reconcile or figure it out will be wasted. Not all relationships end happily ever after but with a normal person they will at least have a conversation saying the relationship isn’t working for them. It hurts but at least you have closure and it ended respectfully.

A toxic person will not give you that consideration they walk away with no closure leaving you very confused and devastated. When you feel tempted to reach out to this person please don’t—-come to this sight read what people say about healing from a toxic relationship. You will see you’re not alone and you WILL be ok and be able to move on with your life.
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It really does feel like your person has died. They were there one day, next day, gone. Their body might still be in your home, but the person you thought you knew; the person you have been laying in the same bed with; the person you made a home with; the person you got the dog with; the person you ate with; the person you told your most intimate secrets to; the person you had children with; the person you planned vacations with; the person you presented to your family; the person who told you they loved you like no other; the person you trusted; the person you planned your future around; THAT PERSON IS GONE!

Even if they are still next to you in your bed, THAT PERSON NO LONGER EXISTS. And, they won’t be returning, either. YOU WILL NEVER SEE THAT PERSON AGAIN.

You live with a demon now.

You have to come to terms with the death of the future you planned. Your life will not be what was promised. That person had no intention on bringing those dreams to fruition. You have to grieve the loss of your security, your home, your spirit, your dreams. You have to come to terms with the fact that, no matter how long the history with this person, THEY NEVER LOVED YOU.

You have to be strong enough to absorb the truths that come crashing down on you after you wake from the fog of the relationship. You have to heal from the trauma of realizing that EVERYTHING this person presented to you was a lie.

You have to be stable enough to take the insult of each new secret that comes to light around EVERY CORNER, once that person’s true colors come out. They just keep coming, secret after insult, after affair, after lie, after deceit, after misconduct, after dysfunction, after abuse, they JUST KEEP COMING. And you can’t stop them.

They are literally in the drawers of your home, the cupboards, the papers, the history of your relationship. They are EVERYWHERE you go. They knock on your door. They show up on your social media pages. They’re in your phone bills and your bank accounts. The LIES ARE EVERYWHERE.

There is no more faking it. This animal WILL be terrible to you now RIGHT TO YOUR FACE. There is no more sneaking around. You can see it with your own eyes now. They can’t hide the truth anymore, and their house of cards has fallen ON YOUR head.

And in response to it, they piss on you and walk away in disgust. They don’t care. They’re off to find someone else to do this to again. They can’t fix what they’ve done because THEY WERE NEVER ACTUALLY IN THE RELATIONSHIP to begin with, you were. YOU were in a relationship ALL ALONE the ENTIRE time.

https://www.quora.com/Discarded-and-thrown-away-like-a-worthless-piece-of-garbage-by-someone-who-once-said-they-loved-you-can-be-horrible-How-does-it-feel-to-be-discarded-Help-others-know-how-does-it-feel-to-be-discarded-by-a-narcissist